Saturday, July 11, 2009

Giants

Giants by Mike Madaris, Written 7/12/08, upon the coronation & homegoing of Jason Weathers.

Giants still walk the land occasionally.
I know this, because I knew one.
Physically strong and imposing
But that’s not the topic here,
For, he was not fearsome
Unless you lined up opposite him
On a football field
Or tried to throw him into a pool against his will.
Those aside, He got along with everybody.
Literally, everybody, as far as I knew.
Calm of demeanor, yet loved to laugh.
Quiet in personality, yet loved hard rock.
Intelligent, but not desiring to flaunt that.
Private, yet the son of a very public man
And later, married into another very public family.
In the midst of all, he was a giant.

The courtship. She was the only one.
They met when her Dad took a job at the giant’s church.
And his Dad’s. And his Granddad’s.
The realizing came quickly to most.
These two were a match.
They realized it too.
The courtship lasted until they finished college.
And he remained a giant.
Always loving, yet always honoring.
Serving. Cherishing. As it was intended to be.
Role models. Giants.
Who else marries a giant, but another giant after all?

10 years of marriage. A move to FL.
3 children deeply treasured.
One looks like her mother, yet like Dad in temperament.
One looks like his Dad, yet tempered like his mother.
And one too young to answer these questions
Though she surely looks like her Dad.
Each nurtured. Treasured. Celebrated.
Giants are like that about their offspring.

A servant’s heart.
Toward his lady. Toward his children.
Toward his friends. Toward his Lord.
Church service involved the out of the way
The behind the scenes
The un-glamorous
The invisible.
Sometimes giants stay in the background.
Perhaps that is why so few of us believe in them any more.

The servant heart spilled over into career choice.
Especially poignant to me this week
As I have been greatly served and blessed by multiple nurses
As a patient, I say the best in that field are wired as servants.
Others-centered. Paycheck almost incidental.
Towering over the rest of us.
Giants.

The dreadful disease with the nasty prognosis
The treatment nearly as nasty
Uncertainty. Doubt. Fear.
In his case, for others more than self
Beloved wife and treasured children.
Parents. Parents-in-law. Brother. Brother-in-law.
Not wanting to burden others with the battle he fought so well.
The larger men among us worry about us like that.
7 months of desperate fighting.
Interspersed with time spent with family and with lesser mortals.
Like me. At Starbucks.
Still dreaming of an earthly future that would never be.
Then the end; rather, the beginning.
What, after all, is a last, horrendous week against 30+ years of a towering-above life?
Faith became sight.
Death & disease forever vanquished.
Healing. No more illness, no more treatment, no more pain.
“Well Done, good and faithful servant.”
The stuff of dreams. Thankfully, not of legends.

Hopes and dreams realized.
Sin not only defeated, but now utterly removed.
As has been sung, "I can only imagine." He need not imagine any more.
This makes me smile through tears.
Victory won. Decisively. Forever.
It is well…it is well with his soul.
In that land, there are only giants. Now one more.
And this land seems all the more empty.

11 comments:

Laurie in Ca. said...

Oh Sweet Stephanie,

This absolutely takes my breath away tonight. How can it be that a year has passed already and yet seem like an eternity? I love you my friend and am praying for you sweetie. Asking the Lord to be extra gentle with you these days. He holds you in His heart. Jason is a Giant and is so blessed to be remembered by such a close friend as Mike will always be. Many hugs to you tonight, hugs and love for you and the kids.

Love and Prayers, Laurie

Carly Winborne said...

thinking of you everyday, but especially today.

Angela said...

You don't know me at all. I was introduced to your sweet family by my cousin, Mike Madaris. I have prayed for you and your family for a long time now and have, many times, been humbled by your strength and GRACE through this. Although I have never commented, I wanted you to know that we are praying for you today. I pray that among the pain that seemingly cannot be washed away, you will find moments of pure joy and laughter remembering who he was and who he IS now with God.

praying...
~Angela

theglenns556 said...

Thanks for sharing this. What a wonderful legacy he leaves. You have been asking people to share their memories of Jason. I didn't know Jason, but I feel like I do now. But, I can share something. His life challenges me to be better. His life points me to Jesus. His life was/is and example! Lots of prayers for you today!

heatherstockett said...

What a wonderful poem. Even though I did not know him, I can see him through other people's eyes-and I can "see" that he was a giant. I love you, Steph. Prayers are with you...yesterday, today, tomorrow and forever.

Amy said...

Praying for you and your sweet family. Thank you for sharing this special tribute. As I've followed along on your journey from behind this screen, I have been very moved by what a godly man he was, and by what a godly woman and example you are. Thank you, and much love to you, sister in Christ.

Anonymous said...

Thinking of all you Weathers folks today, with special prayers that your week in Sandestin will bring some of the happiest memories for you all to dwell on. I know that these hours of today and the next couple of days will bring flashbacks of so much sadness, but let that surf and beach breeze cleanse your souls and bring a large measure of joy to each of you. You all remain on our hearts and in our prayers. Love, carolyn laster

Dahlia said...

Stephanie,
I find myself thinking of all of you tonight....what a wonderful Christian witness Jason was both in this life and through his death. I know his parents continue to grieve as only parents do. And I know that the children miss their daddy each day just as Brad misses his brother. And there is that breathtaking longing that surfaces for you when you least expect it....and yet through all this sorrow I want to thank you all deeply for the joyous example you have been for so many of us. You are such living testimonies of God receiving the glory and Satan being banished! As I reread "Giants" I was reminded of a time long ago when we were tailgating at a USM game. Jon Mark and Wayne were visiting when Jason (maybe he was 10 or so) ran up and told his dad that Brad and another kid were fighting....sorry to tell this, but Brad was having a little trouble....well, Jon Mark pulled a piece of gum from his pocket and handed it to Jason while telling him he could have the gum if he went and helped his brother out! And off he ran to take care of business....and now Brad is doing the same for Jason. Know that we continue to pray for all of you and lift you up!
Dahlia

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for printing Mike Madaris' tribute to Jason entitled "Giants" once again. I saw Mike from a distance at Logan's today & hoped to catch him before he left to tell him how much that tribute has blessed my heart, so maybe if he looks at your site, he'll see this.
I prayed for you all day--I know it must have been hard for you, facing this lst anniversary of Jason's death. But, oh my, what a wonderful legacy he left not only to his family but to all of us--people that knew him well & people like me who never had the privilege of meeting him.
I pray you will have a blessed week ahead filled with God's strength & renewed hope for the future--God is already there!

Love, Janice Martin

Sarah said...

A touching tribute, you splashed me today through your tears. You splashed me with God's goodness and your faith even in the midst of a fierce storm.

Blessing to you dear one, and hugs all the way from Costa Rica,
Sarah Dawn

Michele said...

Your family has been on my mind for a while and I'm finally here to let you know... Praying peace, blessings, and joy for you!!!